Humans need community; we need family and friends, human touch and conversation. Often, in our need to find community, we search for “looks like me.” Maybe the similarities come in the form of similar religious believes, social class, or ethnicity. But in our search for similarities we begin to behave as if similar means “exactly the same.” Like somehow, my Christianity is the same as your Christianity, that my small town upbringing was the same as yours. We start with similar and forget that similar does not mean identical. What if we begin relationships with the assumption that we are different, even in our similarities? What if we both appreciate our differences and treasure our similarities?